BDSM Role & Interest Test

A privacy-friendly, consent-forward BDSM reflection tool that highlights your dominant, submissive, sadist, masochist, rope, brat, caregiver, experimental, vanilla, and switch tendencies.

The BDSM Role & Interest Test is a clear, education-first questionnaire that maps how you relate to power, sensation, bondage, service, roleplay, curiosity, and vanilla preferences. It is grounded in consent culture and written in plain language so newcomers and experienced practitioners can reflect without jargon or shame. Your answers convert into role percentages that help you communicate boundaries, curiosities, and needs.

This guide is not a diagnosis and it never overrides informed consent. It is a mirror. If you are exploring kink, polyamory, power exchange, or simply wondering how your desires fit together, the test provides vocabulary and structure. Use it to start conversations, to check in with partners, or to refine your own self-understanding before you negotiate a scene.

Every statement uses a five-point agreement scale. Finishing the test usually takes 10 to 15 minutes. Many people complete it once a year to see how experiences or relationships shift their profile. Feel free to pause, journal, or revisit sections—the pace is entirely yours.

How to create a grounded experience

Set aside at least ten minutes where you will not be interrupted.
Answer for your real feelings and history, not who you think you should be.
Notice any strong reactions. They usually signal a boundary, a fantasy, or a place that needs more information.
If you feel uncomfortable, take a breather. This test is a tool, not a deadline.

What this assessment covers

The questions span eight core themes: power exchange, sensation play, rope and restraint, discipline psychology, service and care dynamics, roleplay, experimental curiosity, and safety orientation. The goal is to clarify which patterns excite you and which ones should stay off the table.

Your results surface twelve role families plus two balancing traits (Switch and Vanilla). Each percentage is a conversation starter, not a prescription. Keep reading to understand how they are calculated and how to use them responsibly.

How to approach each statement

Use your natural first reaction. Agreeing strongly signals consistent enthusiasm. Neutral means the idea is situational. Disagree signals discomfort or disinterest.

All statements assume explicit consent, communication, and safety practices. Never equate fantasy with obligation. The test celebrates curiosity and honors boundaries.

1 = Strongly Disagree, 5 = Strongly Agree.
Think about real experiences or well-imagined scenarios.
If your answer depends on the partner or context, choose the option that best reflects most situations.

Consent-first foundations of this test

Autonomy and respect

Every preference is valid. A high Vanilla score is just as useful as a high Dominant score. The point is awareness, not ranking.

Informed curiosity

You can be curious about a role without rushing into it. Treat new discoveries as invitations to research, negotiate, and practice safely.

Negotiation literacy

Results emphasize communication. Safe words, check-ins, aftercare, and limits appear throughout the statements because they are essential.

Emotional aftercare

Scenes can be intense. The test reinforces aftercare, debriefing, and emotional processing so kink remains grounded in care.

Role families measured in this test

Percentages show how strongly each role resonates for you today. Some people have several high scores. Others concentrate in one lane. Both patterns are common.

Dominant and Submissive

Dominants relish guiding, structuring, or commanding. Submissives enjoy yielding, following, or serving. Both roles can be playful, nurturing, strict, or ritualistic depending on negotiation.

Sadist and Masochist

Sadists like delivering controlled intensity and witnessing reactions. Masochists enjoy receiving negotiated sensations. These identities do not require pain—they can include pressure, temperature, or psychological stimuli.

Rigger and Rope Bunny

Riggers love tying, engineering restraint, and creating visual or physical artistry. Rope bunnies thrive on being bound, held, suspended, or otherwise contained in consensual ways.

Brat and Brat Tamer

Brats bring playful defiance, testing boundaries to invite structure. Brat tamers enjoy responding with correction, guidance, or teasing discipline. The dynamic thrives on chemistry and clear agreements.

Caregiver and Pet

Caregivers offer nurture, structure, and reassurance. Pets revel in being doted on, guided, and sometimes trained. These roles can be soft, playful, or ritual-rich.

Experimentalist and Vanilla

Experimentalists chase novelty, tools, and new techniques. Vanilla lovers prefer conventional intimacy and may use kink sparingly or not at all. You can rate highly in both—context matters.

Switch

Switches flex between roles based on mood, partner, negotiation, or scene design. A high Switch score indicates comfort exploring multiple perspectives.

Safety, negotiation, and aftercare reminders

BDSM thrives on informed consent. Talk through desires, limits, health considerations, triggers, and logistical needs before you play. Draft a simple scene outline if it helps everyone stay grounded.

Agree on a stop protocol—verbal safe words (green, yellow, red) or non-verbal signals if voice will be restricted. Rehearse them. Consent can be revoked at any time without explanation.

Plan aftercare together. That might include blankets, water, gentle words, snacks, space, journaling, or next-day check-ins. Aftercare reduces emotional whiplash and honors everyone involved.

Negotiate the intensity before any scene. Surprises are for agreed-upon moments, not boundaries.
Share medical or mental health information that could affect scenes (for example, joint issues, medications, trauma histories).
Keep a first-aid kit, shears, and safety gear nearby when playing with rope, impact, or breath.
If something feels off, pause immediately. Checking in is a sign of maturity, not weakness.

FAQ

Curious about how to use your results? These answers clarify the most common questions.

Is a high score better than a low score?

No. Percentages reflect comfort and curiosity, not superiority. A 90% Dominant is not “better” than a 20% Dominant. The only score that matters is the one that feels authentic to you.

What if I scored high in opposite roles?

Humans are complex. Many people are both Dominant and Submissive, or enjoy Sadist and Masochist dynamics at different times. Use the scores to negotiate nuance rather than forcing yourself into a single box.

Do I have to act on my results?

Absolutely not. Awareness is useful even if you never explore a role. Treat the test like a conversation starter. Only act on the roles that feel safe, consensual, and exciting.

Can I share the results with partners?

Yes, if you want to. You decide what stays private. If you share, frame the conversation around mutual curiosity and boundaries, not demands.

How often should I retake the test?

Many people retest annually or after major life shifts—new relationships, poly dynamics, breakups, or time away from kink. Watch how your curiosities evolve.